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Friday, December 23, 2011

Ready for the Big Move

Again, my apologies for not posting lately. We are in the middle of packing as well as Christmas time and events.
We are moving sometime in early January to a home that will better accommodate our family size. It will have some acreage that is exactly what we wanted to do all the fun things our kids have wanted to do.
The only thing about this home is that it needs the upstairs finished. The homeowners never finished the upstairs, but we intend to do so, but need a lot of help to do it. We're praying that God will provide the finances and physical labor to help us. He's done it before and all we can do now is ask for His provision in His economy, which is unlimited.
We hope to have some time next week after the current homeowners are out of the house to start the insulation and wiring, etc. But we need materials first. That's the first order of business.

Lightening is doing very well from his surgery. His large intestine has decreased in size smaller than when we first picked him up in Arizona. The doctors believe he was slowly getting backed up and Thanksgiving dinner may have been the final "plug". He will have another surgery in February/March time frame to reconnect things and hopefully he won't have to have another bag hooked to the small intestine while the colon heals. The doctors will not know that until they get into his abdomen.

Christmas day is an exciting day for all of the kids even though we don't have the house decorated for Christmas since we're moving. Either way, they all understand. The three new boys probably haven't had a Christmas like this. So, we aren't sure if they fully understand the real meaning of Christmas, not with all of the presents and such.

Until next time, pray that we survive the move and construction project!

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Lightning Update

Sunday afternoon was when Lightning arrived back home after a week in the hospital. He is like a brand new kid! We also celebrated his 5th birthday yesterday, but we didn't enjoy any cake as his stomach and colon have to adjust slightly to a new diet.
We anticipate him wearing the colostomy bag for three months, which will allow the large intestine to decrease in size. Then, they will go and perform another surgery to connect everything back the way it was meant to go.
In the mean time, we are trying to pack anything we can so we can move in early January!

Wednesday, November 30, 2011


We are currently in the hospital with Lightening. He has Hirsch Sprung's disease. That means he was born with a diseased part of his colon and it was removed and more colon pulled down to help him pass his stool. Basically, he started throwing up a lot on Monday and by the evening we took him to the emergency room. They thought maybe he had a twist in his colon but now it looks like stool has just backed up pretty bad.

At this point, they are draining fluid and stool from his mouth and bottom. He is in a lot of pain and his stomach is very enlarged. Sounds like we will be here a few more days. Pray for him. Pray for our other kids since mommy and daddy are not home. Poor Peanut Butter is very sad without mommy :(

Sunday, November 6, 2011


Again, sorry for being a bad blogger.  Time, don't have much! 

Life has been moving fast here.  We found a house we really like!  Actually, we had looked at it before the boys came home.  It was over nine months ago.  We liked it then but it was too much money for us.  The house had so much potential, basically when all finished it would have seven bedroom, but we could not afford to buy the house and still fix it.  So, we forgot about it and moved on.

Just last week I was at Prime Care with one of the boys.  The female doctor and I started talking and we realized that her house was the house we had looked at all those months ago.  Her husband was relocating to Florida and she was here with the kids.  She mentioned they were thinking about selling it for what they owed just to move it faster.  All that led to us seeing it again and our house is now on the market.

It still will be a higher payment for our one income family but we hope we will get a little money from our house to start the project.  If not, we will just have to wait.  The main floor is all finished so we would be squashed but we are pretty squeezed in here anyway.  However, we have faith that something amazing will work out!

The house is on five acres!  We have all been longing to be out in the country for a long time.  Most of my kids love animals and have dreams of goats, chickens, cats, and alpacas.  Ok, the alpacas are my thing....they are just so cute!

All the kids are doing well in school.  Most days go pretty smoothly and we are done by lunch.  Sunshine has longer but she is in high school.  I am not sure what will happen with showing a house a in the van??

Also, we have one other bit of very exciting news but I want to wait until it is confirmed on paper.  No, I am not pregnant!

Friday, September 30, 2011

Can you tell I have 10 kiddos??

Goodness, I cannot believe how long it has been since my last update!  Not that I am normally eating bon bons all day, but starting school with all the kids has made me lose even more time.

The boys are adjusting well.  Charmer is more reserved and stand off-ish.  Of course, he is the oldest and is probably grieving heavier than the other two.  I do notice that if we have company, he will immediately come over and grab onto my leg.  I think we are heading in the right direction with his attachment.

Lightening is much more passive about his behavior.  He is very sneaky.  I found him one day in our neighbors yard picking peaches off the ground and eating them!

Spiderman is a super cuddler.  He is always telling me he loves me and cries if he cannot find me.  I would say he has the least "issues" off all the boys so far.

It is interesting to see how they gravitate towards me.  They had been raised by their biological father for their whole lives basically.  I was not sure how they would react to a mother in their lives.  So far I have food on my side!  Food is BIG DEAL to these boys.  That is one area that frustrates me even though I know where it is coming is a security for them.  However, I do know from talking to others that food was a huge thing in their lives.  They basically sat and watched t.v. all day and ate fast food.  I guess that explains why anytime I am in the kitchen (which is 90% of my day!) they want to play upstairs....of course, then they can see I am cooking and constantly ask me what it is :)  All during dinner I hear "Momma, you are a good chef!"  Ok, that part is cute!

We had to postpone our court hearing.  At this point, we are dealing with the biological mom and termination of her rights.  Every time we think things are done more issues arise.  We would appreciate your prayers that this will be finalized soon.

At that, the only other report is that my quiver is busting!!!!!  Our house is too small.  A great friend asked me what I thought God wanted me to learn (because no matter what we cannot find a house in the country in our price range).....I know what!  Gratitude and Contentment.  He will provide a house at some point.  Probably one that will blow my mind!  But for now, I need to remember what I saw in Ethiopia.  What I know millions of people live in every day and be thankful.  Winter may be hard but we can do it!

And the rest of our kids are still doing great :)

Thursday, September 1, 2011

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to.....The Charmer!

He is six years old today!  And he is a handsome little guy :)  We love you buddy!

Friday, August 26, 2011

Happy Birthday Enforcer!!!!

He is six Saturday....SIX!!!!  There are not words to describe how awesome he is.  Just amazing!  If anyone can melt my heart away it is him.  We cannot wait to see what God has in store for your life!  Love you...

Wednesday, August 24, 2011


A great friend reminded me of the first hurdle during the attachment process of adoption.  She said it would come around six weeks.  This past week has been pretty hard here.  One of the boys started using his bed and bedroom as a bathroom.  There have been countless discipline issues this past week.  Then I remembered my friend's words....they have been here just over six weeks.

I have read almost every attachment book written; popular, non-Christian, Christian with Bible studies added, etc.  There are so many good nuggets of information to help me understand what they are feeling.  However, something has always just been "off" a bit to me.  God, through many new friends , has poked my heart to look to Him for the answers...not just an adoption book.

We had a long hard battle for Z-girl.  I read every book - took her to numerous counseling sessions - regressed her - I tried it all.  Then one day I remember thinking "this just seems like something spiritual to me."  Many of you know our story of what happened with Z-girl.  There was a serious battle for her very soul!  Praise the Lord we were victorious...but what does this have to do with adoption?

Satan hates everything God stands for....LOVE, KINDNESS, PATIENCE, FORGIVENESS, SECURITY,  ACCEPTANCE....but LOVE, oh how he hates that.  These children start as orphans.  Whether as an infant or older child, regardless of the circumstances, they are rejected and abandoned - with good intentions from most biological families.  However, truth is they were left behind.  Evil intends it to stay that way.  He wants them to stay broken, alone, scared, without love.  God commands us to take care of the widows and orphans.  Evil will fight against that with every ounce of energy available.

Z-girl had a very hard time.  It was so real in our home.  Satan wanted her broken, shattered, cold, alone, and desperate.  Finally, we listened to God and found the tools through him and many friends that allowed us to perceive it, rebuke it, and love on her.  She has made huge strides.  Now, regression has started.  I expected that.  And although I can fall into those old patterns of annoyance again at fighting the battle of wills....I have chosen and God has reminded me of the tools He has given all of us. 

Today, Z-girl and I prayed.  We talked.  We both cried.  She is a redemption story!  She is NOT abandoned or rejected.  She WILL NOT stay broken.  I believe in God's complete healing of her!

Now, we will remember these situations with our boys.  And of course, with all our children and ourselves.  It is not as if Satan isn't trying stuff on me.  He doesn't just go after the adopted ;). 

I heard a quote somewhere that said "I want to be the kind of woman that when Satan hears my feet hit the floor each morning he says 'OH CRAP, she is awake!'"  Dear Lord - let that be me!!!!

Remember  Ephesians 6:12
**For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world-rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Be Somebody Else....Not Yourself

So, the title to this post has some play on words which has led me to write such an inspirational post (much sarcasm).

I was talking with some co-workers and there was one person that was surprised that we have adopted 5 children as well as have 5 biological. Their comment was, "Why ruin your life with all the problems of adoption and let somebody else do that. You should enjoy your life not ruin it and put such a burden on taxpayers with all those kids."

Anger, apethy, disgust, a strong desire to physically break get the point as to how I felt. That all went through my head. What I said did not come from me because I can't think that fast on my toes. My comment was, "Well, I am somebody else." And I walked away.

My thoughts are that we should be that "somebody else", because if we aren't, then who? The good Lord above has put it into mine and Ethel's hearts to adopt as a way to serve Him. Serving Him may not be through adoption for all people. I know that discerning and understanding of your spiritual gifts and utilizing them to your best ability is usually what being "somebody else" is all about.

"Somebody Else" is not the norm in today's society. Ironically, we are told to just be ourselves. All well and good for most instances, but in cases like this, especially in America the Land of Plenty, sacrificing selfish desires is for "somebody else."

My soapbox is broken now and wore out, so I will step down. Thanks for listening...err....reading.

As an update for family, Ethel can do a better job with that, but I will try.

The three new boys are doing just fine. There are the typical brotherly fights and whining, but it will take time for them, as well as the other seven, to figure who fits where in the family. We are now 1.5 months into this family of 12 and it has gone better than I expected.

This week was the first week of school, well, for the Reeves' homeschool bunch.
It also starts football practice for Car Man. He has so much wanted to compete in football as well as a dad's desire to see his son play football. What dad wouldn't want to see his boy doing what he did as a kid! I'm excited to see how he reacts when he goes up against kids his own size or larger and it's for real. It's not the messing around in the front yard stuff.

Last week was the Unity Music Festival in Muskegon and I took Sunshine and Peeps to Day Zero which is free to see Barlow Girl and Kutless. That was an amazing night especially for Kutless to come out playing worship songs and seeing people of an older generation swaying and worshiping to what Kutless was playing! Thursday night we went back again to see four bands; Hearts of Saints, FFH, Group 1 Crew, and Switchfoot. They all were fantastic, but Switchfoot put on an incredible show. Peeps and Sunshine both loved it and want to go back next year.

Ethel took Boukie and Car Man to see the Go Fish guys at church. They came home with smiles as wide as Texas on their faces. Now, all they play are Go Fish songs....oh...and Annagail's "Linger in Bloom" CD.

Annagail is a favorite band of ours. Please check them out at
They will be going on their radio tour in the fall. Please check out their album "The Cabin Sessions".

That's all for now! Yeah I all want pictures.....Ethel can get on

Monday, August 8, 2011

Happy Birthday JoJo!

We celebrated JoJo's 4th birthday this past Saturday and she was so excited to get presents in the summer! For some reason, I think she forgot she had a birthday last year where she received presents in summer.
JoJo has been with us for 3.5years and she has brought so much joy to our lives that I can't express my emotion. She has an infectious smile and a heart as big as Africa!
She is a beautiful African princess that just resonates the joy and life that God provides us here on earth. We are truly blessed to be able to raise JoJo! We love her and are so thankful for the beautiful smile she brings to my face when I'm having a downer day. Thanks JoJo and many more birthdays to you!

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Why is our blog named this?

Isaiah 61:1 "proclaiming freedom for the captives" and this song by Mercy Me. That is the inspiration for Fred and I to be "chain breakers".  For ourselves....for as many children as God blesses us with....for the broken world.

Monday, August 1, 2011

Sunday, July 31, 2011

A week in Review....and Some Good Friends!

I know...I's been a while since we've posted and most all of you are chomping at the bit to know "What is going on in the Reeves' household!". Well, not much. Basically, life. Just life. Go here, stand there, go over there, play here, don't touch that, be nice, calm down, why are the dogs outside, I've said it three times not to put your finger in that, why would you lick that, who told you to take off your clothes, and my favorite, why would you think the back yard is a bathroom?
Please don't think that this all came from "certain" children! Ohhh no! this includes ALL of the children at one point or another even the older "should know better" kids! ....sigh. But if we didn't experience all of this, then what else is there to do in life? I can't imagine having to find things to do! lol.

Anyway, we have been blessed to have some friends in our lives that are just wonderful, amazing, and talented! They are a married musical group who has put out an incredible record that I have found myself listening to over and over again. They write their own lyrics based on things they have encountered in life. It seems as though they are writing about me sometimes. The group is Annagail and you can find their music on iTunes and Amazon. Pretty soon, they will be going on a radio tour where they visit a lot, and I mean a lot of Christian radio stations across this country to promote their music. They have blessed us in amazing ways and we hope that we can help return that favor by getting the word out. They have a record contract out of Nashville, TN and are ready to hit it big to spread God's word through music to those who need a lift and a little inspiration. Keep watch of their announcement for this tour at They are just wonderful people and we cannot wait to see what God has in store for them!

Saturday, July 23, 2011

Not what I expected

So, the more people at work find out that I've adopted three little guys who need a home the more I hear this comment and praise that we are doing such a wonderful thing and on and on and on. To be honest, I have only noticed this as more and more people find out that we have 10 kids and not just the three newly adopted boys. It has never crossed my mind that we are doing this to receive praise and attention from other people. I am concerned on one hand because that is what it might appear to be to some. My point of view is simple. I am doing what God has prompted me to do with my hands and feet. It's the same as if I asked one of my children to help me pick up the dinner mess or pick up toys. They use their hands and feet to physically pick up these items. Well, we are physically using our lives to provide a home for these children both biological and adopted.
Some people have asked me, "Isn't 7 enough?". Well, if God says that He is good with me having 7, then the answer would be "yes". However, God asked us to go beyond that. That brings me to my other thought to ponder.
I've always heard that "God does not ever give you more than you can handle." Lately, I think He does give me more than I can handle so that my only reliance is upon Him. When I can't do it anymore, I turn to Him and he stretches me more. Well, I keep finding that I can handle more. So, is it our flesh that believes we can't handle anymore than God gives? Or is it that we aren't trusting enough of Him to be stretched?
This whole process for this last round of adoption has taught us that when we take a leap, not even a step in our case, of faith, that He will stretch us and grow us. And when we look back to see where we've been, we see our footprints along with His right beside ours. Why is it that when we are on that journey we don't notice His hand holding our and His foot steps next to ours?
When I look back at this domestic adoption process and the speed at which things happened, I can only surmise that God was with us the whole way. Satan tried to close doors, cast worry into our minds, throw flaming arrows of doubt at us, but every time, God kept reassuring us with little positive notes along the way that He was in control and Satan's lies were only a mere distraction. Who goes from 7 children in hand on June 15 to 10 children by July 1 without the help of a supreme being? Mountains were moved, bureaucratic paperwork and legalities in the adoption system were physically moved by His hand. That is the only description I can look back and describe as to how all this happened.

Anyway, I can tell you that these new boys are fitting in well. They are being stimulated by all of the activities of the other kids around them and that we are seeing physical and emotional changes in their behavior that are positive! It's amazing to see them grow and learn in such a short period of time! The feeling and emotional ties we have with them are growing as if they have been with us since birth.

Thanks to all of you who have commented on our blog and have followed. It's good to know, as well as surprising, at all who actually take a peek inside our lives.

Monday, July 18, 2011

BLOG going Private...

For certain reasons that some of you may know, we are going to turn our blog private. So, please comment on our blog with your email address if you wish to receive an invitation to continue following. Sorry about this, but protection of our family is of utmost importance.

We will turn this private as of this coming Friday, July 21.

Sunday, July 17, 2011


During our many attachment trials with Z-girl, it became apparent to me that she so desperately wanted to be covered in love.  Love, that at times, was hard for me to give.  Love that required more of me than I could muster up on my own.  Love that showed itself in constant discipline and boundaries, yet a constant reassurance of our commitment, mostly mine as the "mom", to her forever.

Through many scriptures and God using wonderful friends to speak to me, I really began to soak in the truth of Luke 9:23 "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me."  I felt like so much was about me....what was I doing wrong?  Why couldn't I fix her problems?  Why wasn't God blessing me?  After all, we obeyed His words to us.  However, God wanted me to pick up that cross of parenting her daily...not weekly but daily.

Then the incredible truths poured out on me.  I began to really understand that I, alone, could NOT fix her.  She needed to be clothed in my love and I had to daily ask God to fill me up with the Holy Spirit to show her the love she needed.  The Spirit needed to fill me up so I could pour more out to Z-girl.

I know the boys will likely go through some of the same things Z-girl did...however, I feel so much more prepared now.  We already as a couple have begun praying against certain things that seem to fight to keep "orphans" in their state of rejection and abandonment.  And before they came to our family, I found a wonderful plaque that I hung right when I walk into the door.  It has the Fruit of the Spirit on it.  The word "love" is written very big also....a constant reminder to cover them in love. 

Abba Father, let us be a family that shows your love daily by our actions and words.  Let us break any strongholds in our own lives and those of our children.  You are our King and we are grateful to serve You alone!

-Pouring heaven into these kids - right Kim :)

Tuesday, July 12, 2011


Things have been going as "expected" around here.  First, let me start by introducing our new children by their nicknames.  Oldest son is "Charmer".  Middle son is "Lightning".  Youngest son is "Spiderman"

That in itself tells you a bit about their personalities.  Charmer is doing pretty well.  On the surface, he tends to pull away more quickly.  However, I have figured out by teasing him a bit he very quickly lightens up and will receive the affection.  He DOES NOT like to share.  I really think he spent a lot of time being "dad" to his younger brothers and it is just hard letting anyone else be the parent.  Also, he has the memories of the loss much more vividly.  But boy, does he know how to charm :)

Lightning is doing pretty well.  He had surgery as a baby for a twisted colon and that contributes to bathroom "issues".  We have noticed that he uses it now more as a control thing.  His life is out of control - third move in two weeks - new parents - new siblings - a lot of structure which they did not have at all before.  So, it makes sense.  I have noticed that since we instituted him wearing a pull-up, the "accidents" have totally ceased.

Spiderman - he is a loving little boy.  He is so good and accepting and seeking out affection.  Most of the time, he knows to come to me when he is hurt, needs a hug, etc.  And he never would sit in "time-ins" before...EVER!!  Already he has figured out he needs to finish his consequence and then he can get out.  That is huge progress as I laid awake in AZ wondering if he would ever be able to sit still!!!

Z-girl is regressing a bit.  To be expected, but still hard.  We keep telling her she has to help "teach" the boys how our family works, how following God and his rules are the way we live and I am hoping that will help her change the behavior.

Peanut butter is NOT enjoying mommy having slightly distracted time right now.  But she did give Charmer a hug today of her own free will.

We are blessed...tired and blessed.  The first few months are going to be a lot of figuring out life.  I am glad it is not time to do school yet!!!

Saturday, July 9, 2011

A Picnic and Day at the Beach

The day started off with a wonderful breakfast made by grandma and grandpa! We all went to a little known park and had it all to ourselves! After breakfast, we headed to a private beach on Lake Michigan. This was just a perfect day! The weather was in the low 80's.....low humidity....and just right to cool off in the water!
The new boys are adjusting well and really starting to find their place within the family. Though there are some minor bumps with behavior, which is typical of any child, they are experiencing some freedom like they've never known before. We pray that this keeps up.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Settling In

It's been a couple of days now and the boys are starting to settle in and understand how our family functions. I am not sure they knew what structure and order was. They are learning what to expect next especially when it comes time to eat. At first, they would dive into their food literally. We taught them that we pray first and then they can eat civilly. Now, they have learned that they will be fed, but they must wait to pray. Two days is all that took!
Yesterday, all three of them had their doctor appt. It lasted 2.5 hours as the doctor was trying to assess where they were physically and mentally. LJ(4) needed the most shots as he was 7 behind! He received 4 and will get the other 3 in a month. JJ(3) needed 3 shots and EJ(5) only received a poke on his finger to get some blood samples. They have some physical issues, but nothing that can't be easily corrected! Thank the Lord!
Mentally, they will catch up since they are in a home that has a lot of stimulation with reading, writing, speaking, interacting, etc.
So, we just try to keep the same pace and routine in the family so they can get acclimated and know what to expect next. The first night home was quite "hairy", but we figured out the best way to do things last night when it came to bed time.
Sunshine and Peeps helped figure out the car seat puzzle for us. We needed to have at least one older kid in every row so as to help the younger ones get buckled. Last night, we went for a drive and all worked out very well. I couldn't believe that the first time we all got into the van it was like a well oiled machine.

Lastly, thanks to all of you who have helped us with big things and small things. The meals have been wonderful! Helping with watching our kids while we had our weekend excursion in the desert also was a huge help! Thanks to all of you!

We will try to post as often as possible.

Sunday, July 3, 2011


It has been an eventful day.  We actually went to church with the boys.  A friend via blog world invited us to her church.  The boys made it through - the communion did not go over well and it was obvious they had never been to church before...however, bribery of candy afterwards seemed to work well.  You just do what ya gotta do!

Then we came home and had some lunch.  After we took a short nap and then met our same friend at the YMCA.  Even though it was hot, the water felt very nice.  It is so stinky hot here that all you can do is be in air conditioning or water.

I hope we make it through the plane ride.  The two little ones pee about three times every 20 minutes!!!  We are convinced they do not have a bladder!
 Heading off to church!!

Saturday, July 2, 2011

....I'm a wimpy Michigan Boy....

I know that I can't complain about Michigan weather being hot, humid, nasty, sweaty....But I will appreciate those days now....because I have been put on Hell's grill! I snapped this photo of the temperature in our van once we got back to our hotel. We had just left the movie theater where took the boys to see Car's 2, and when we exited, it said it was 123 degrees. It cooled down to a "refreshing" 121 by the time we got back to our hotel.
Also, the boys like to eat....that is apparent! We drive by a McDonald's or Wendy's and it sounds like the birds from "Finding Nemo"! It's quiet, then all three boys in unison perk up and scream the name of the fast food establishment! They will adjust.

The Boys!

Well, the whirlwind tour we are on has finally led us to picking up the boys from the foster home in Arizona. These boys were excited and ready to come see us. We had figured that they would want to transition over to us during our stay and then we would just put them on a plane and away we go. However, the boys decided that they wanted to stay with us! So, what to do with three boys in a hotel room. We are searching for things and have found a few items around town to do.

Anyway, they are just the typical boys. Carson and Luke are going to have to teach the boys a lot of new things about our family!

Today, we will try the new Cars movie and maybe a park. Not sure about the park since it's so hot! The temperature on our van read 118 degrees yesterday! I can't say that I've ever felt a slap in the face of heat like that before. "Dry heat"'s dry....but it's hot! Good grief!

We plan to return to Michigan on Monday evening around 5:40pm. In the meantime, we bond with these guys and try to help them in this difficult and confusing time for them.

Thursday, June 30, 2011


Well, the garage sale was a HUGE success.  A $2,000.00 success!  It was amazing how many people bought very little but donated.  So many asked our story of our boys and got tears in their eyes.  One lady shopped the sale and then turned her car around because God told her to give us more money.  It was just incredible!!!

Michigan cleared us officially today.  This is huge as there are many hurdles in this situation that made things more difficult.  It was worth more than gold to hire our Michigan attorney.  He really got a lot done for us and made things smooth.  Although, we know Who the real one behind this whole thing is!

There has been so much help from everyone too.  My friends have been here for two days watching my sale, packing it up, keeping me company....and I didn't have to ask one of them.  They just did it!!  A few friends have offered to paint the boys room for them and fix it up while we are gone too.  Truly amazing!

I have never seen the Body of Christ move like this....I have never been a part of such an obvious pouring of God's blessings.  We had many blessings adopting the girls, however, this has been so fast, so unbelievable, and so obvious I can barely fathom it!

Pray for peace for my kids.  It was so hard saying goodbye to kids tonight.  I HATE IT!  Pray for me as I HATE planes.  Really, really hate them.  I know that is satan after my mind so I will worry and not focus.  So for now, I will get more stuff done here and remember my verse :  Jeremiah 29:11

Sunday, June 26, 2011


Finally - finally our fingerprints and clearances came back from Lansing and our social worker mailed them to AZ.  Yeah!!!  However, we have now discovered that little "J" does not have his birth certificate.  He was born in VA and they are claiming it will take four weeks to process!!!!  4 weeks!!!!  We cannot be gone that long from our kids.  Or Ted's job. 

So, now we just pray some more that it gets to AZ before we fly out on Friday.  And that we are not gone for 4 weeks.  That would not work!  However, the boys cannot be in foster care forever either.

God has moved so many mountains that we are trusting He will move this one too.

Thursday, June 23, 2011


God confirmed our decision yesterday.  We had more shirts purchased, more garage sale items dropped off, and Mission 1:27 help us with our Arizona attorney fees.  It was a good day!

However, we still DO NOT have our fingerprint approval!!!!  I don't understand what is taking so long.  I talked via email with the foster mom.  She said the boys are doing well but keep asking what is taking mommy and daddy so long.  Just breaks my heart.

But I need to focus on my kids here - focus on getting things ready for my boys - and trust God will provide all we need, including FBI clearance of fingerprints!

Tuesday, June 21, 2011


Today has been pretty calm.  We did get a call last night that the boys arrived at the agency.  Apparently, they are just adorable and well behaved.  I can only imagine how scared they are....what have they been told by their daddy?  Were they allowed to pack anything from the only home they have known?  Have they been told about us yet?  How is their daddy handling this?

Adoption - is the heart of our Father.  However, it is extremely painful for all involved.  I almost feel guilty having any excitement.  Does that make sense?  I just am thankful God has allowed us to be their forever family and part of their healing with His mighty power!

Sunday, June 19, 2011


So, our local area has a wonderful organization that helps with orphan care.  It is Mission 1:27 and they really have a heart for children.  They donated shirts for us to sell!   Here are the pictures.

 BASEBALL T-SHIRTS - We have Youth sizes Small through Large and Adult size Large and XL  $10

DRY-FIT ADULT SHIRTS $15  One is a v-neck style and the other is regular neck.  They both have the same Bible verse on the back as the youth t-shirt.

How did this all happen???

We have asked that ourselves and only one answer comes to mind.  This is ALL God.....

As you all know, we were planning to adopt from Ghana.  It was probably going to be at least a year from beginning to end if not more.  Over the last few months, God has opened our eyes to domestic adoption.  We always assumed that domestic adoption was only babies or through foster care, which we are not eligible for due to our family size.

However, there was a situation a few months ago where a family was making a difficult decision to disrupt an adoption of two boys.  We were choice number 2 for awhile.  Finally, the decision was made for us to adopt them and we began contacting attorneys and such.  Then the family found someone else they wanted to adopt their boys.  During the whole process we kept telling God "whatever You want from us, we will do".  Therefore, it was confusing why this situation kept going back and forth and right when the door was opened for us it was slammed shut again.

Then we just kept went forward with Ghana.  However, we both felt like we needed to "wait out" June and see what God was going to do.  We had already sent in a large sum of money that is now non-refundable for Ghana, however, we didn't feel like we were supposed to start the USCIS part - we needed to wait.

My wonderful friend, Kim, emailed me just last week Thursday about the sibling set of three boys.  I called Ted and he just said to inquire.  Really, we both assumed NOTHING would happen.  It took awhile for the AZ caseworker and us to connect but when she did I learned more information on the boys and the names.  Let's just say the name of one of them was my sign that this was right.  AZ presented us with some other families and we were chosen.  We were at our friends' house eating dinner and we were both in such shock.  10 kids!!!!  5 boys and 5 girls.....what?!?!?!  Again "Ok God, whatever You want..."

Now, we know there is a battle going on.  Already we have hit some snags with MI and AZ.  However, we know there are NO ORPHANS in GOD!  We are trusting these boys will be in our family forever and we will use God's love to heal their wounds.

So, I think we are doing a last minute garage sale.  Not sure what date but if anyone wants to drop stuff off please do.  Probably a bake sale then too....pop can drive....whatever we have to do to get this done!  We do not like to ask for help!  And we both realized that is a pride issue so we are asking for any help but mostly prayers.  These boys are getting some horrible news today. Their daddy is spending his last Father's Day with his boys.  And then they have to live in AZ until we are cleared to get them.  Pray for their foster mother and her heart to reach out to them.

Thanks so much to everyone out there!  Our story is going so viral that Tennessee, Australia, Kentucky and such have been involved.  THANKS!!!

And to respond to the previous comment about what we will do if the birth parents change their minds - we have NO intention of keeping anyone's generous gifts.  Our funds would be rolled over to another adoption from this agency but we would return whomever wished that.

Saturday, June 18, 2011

The every changing life here....

Unfortunately, due to MI having different laws than AZ, the boys will have to be put into foster care.  Mostly, this is because the interstate stuff between our two states could take two weeks or more to get worked out.  I look at my boys' faces and it hurts to know they have to endure yet another trial.  However, we have to do what is best FOR ALL involved.  I have seven sad little faces here at the thought of mom and dad being gone two weeks or more.  And Fred cannot just leave work with no return date! 

So, I have a box of clothes to overnight to the boys.  We have to pay for their private foster care which makes sense.  Also, had to use an AZ attorney which is an added expense.

But, we have a TRUE, LOVING, FAITHFUL God to see us through.  Someday this will all make sense!

Thursday, June 16, 2011


So, in the course of 24 short hours, I have gone from a momma of 7 to a momma of 10!!!!!  There are NOT words to describe what it has been like.

First of all, we have been blessed with so many kind words.  So many offers of help and love.  I am just amazed.

Secondly, we have raised about $4,000 already.  We are praying that things will keep going.  There is money in our paypal account from people I have never met....never heard of....they just felt moved by God to help our three boys.

We leave on Monday morning.  At this point, I cannot give many details but can give specific prayer requests.  Please pray for safe travels - I HATE PLANES!!  Second, pray for the helpers with our seven here and our babies.  They are all having a hard time with us leaving.  Z-girl and JoJo have never had us leave them like this.  And the other kids are feeling like it is Ethiopia all over again :(  Some sadness for them....

But most of all, please pray for our boys.  Pray for their families.  Pray for Fred and I to have the right words for them and the boys.  My heart breaks and the decision they are making right now.

And pray all the interstate paperwork goes through much quicker than they are saying.  I am not sure I want to be in Arizona for two weeks or more!  Not to mention that Fred cannot be gone from work that picture Ethel, alone in AZ with three new boys, flying home alone!  Ya, for those of you that know me - you are laughing like crazy!

For now I am chanting this "I can do ALL things through Christ"  ALL NOT SOME!   Love you all, we really, really do!

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

The roller coaster of our lives...

So, my wonderful friend, Kim, told us about three boys that need a home.  We agreed to pursue - just hearing about them yesterday.  And the family and agency picked us.  NOW WE NEED YOUR HELP!!  We need $25k by Friday.  God gave me a sign....we trust these are our boys.  Please help us bring them home!  I do not think the biological family will want to wait for us to raise the money.  :)

Saturday, June 11, 2011


Set #1 of the headbands is gone already!  I will keep listing what ones sell.  Also, I have medium and large for sale also.  If you are interested in those, please let me know.

Friday, June 10, 2011


We are selling these super fun homemade headbands.  My friend makes them....anyone who knows me know I cannot even sew on a button!  Anyway, the top is made with fun ribbon and the bottom has a non slip fabric.  I have them in lots of three - these are size small which fit my Ethiopian princesses.  Below is pics of the lots.  They are 3 for $25 and I will ship them free :)

Just let me know which set you want.  I have ONE of each set available.  Thanks!